he stopped giving me attention

Now my mom did not know about my boyfriend i was afraid to tell her cause she probably wouldnt approve that he didnt go to school. I really love him but he is not doing anything to build connections. Ive talked to him about it twice to no avail. It sounds that you need to work on yourself first. Ive been with my boyfriend for 4 years. Especially for someone like me who is lonely all the time. And so its for the most part become an issue I think between us. But Im starting to realize my own self worth. I am very confused and angry at myself because I know he wasnt like that in his previous relationship endeavors. I dont know how to bring this up without making him nervous about how he acts, as I dont want to make him uncomfortable about himself. HE SAYS IT ISNT A BIG DEAL. I have been dating my boyfriend for 6 months also and at the beginning he put in so much effort above and beyond and now its like he is a different person. I really think this will be a good thing for us because Ill be able to have my own independence and maybe make him see that I can be happy without him (even tho as of right now we are planning on staying together and commuting to each other when we can). But what?! Its also heartbreaking, especially when you want to be with him. He is perfect to me but like anyone else comes with problems. I am alone in this relationship.? We all deserve to be happy. David & I had a wonderful relationship, but then I noticed a change in him. Because honestly when I do he always comes back around. We havent been fighting everyday. He told me he still wanted me and he loved me so i started talking to him again but things still felt weird. See why its so important for you to know your boyfriend and know yourself before deciding what to do when he doesnt make an effort? Thats hurtful. This isnt a man. Does not show any effort at all, but claims to love me so much. I dont know how much longer I can go with it. I hope this gives you some courage, you deserve to be happy! What I got from this is that it is OK for a male to not understand what he wants in a relationship, but a female should bow down down no matter what. but up to now he doesnt understand what im pointing out and still refuses to make even small efforts. When I do, its the absolute bare minimum or just a bunch of excuses. And youll likely receive the same treatment. We have been together for almost a year. So I honestly dont understand. Hes a year above me, so he went to the senior high and I still went to the junior high (sophomore and freshman) and he would go out of his way because his school got out earlier, he would walk to the junior high and meet me after school and wed walk home. Nor the stress of my mothers battle with stage 4 cancer. Its going to make me fall out of love as he is so defensive and cannot solve the issue. But in the last month, I have noticed that I am always initiating meeting with him, and he would suggest in the very same day or at the spare of the moment for me to pass by his place and we end up spending 2 hours or so with each other having sex and then I leave because one of us has a commitment. Stay fabulous sis!? I didnt really understand why he said that when I been there since day one and still been here but I wanted to also considered how he felt and change that. He regularly bought me presents and he showered me with compliments. Ive held up my end and have been a loving girlfriend but Im not getting much back, but am also afraid of being alone. I said sorry like 4 times before I hung up. I could have written that. I met his mom for the first time when his parents stopped by, we took his dog paddle boarding. I want to give myself time to breath but when I do, again I feel lazy and like Im doing nothing with my life. Especially because hes not an introverted person, he has a lot of friends he goes out with often to play board games or to bars. any improvement? Theres little to no effort. he said he had been trying to email me but i dont rlly believe it I never got anything. Now I am sitting alone in my room crying and reading online articles about how to feel better about myself. Literally so many times. You can let go slowly at first and just start seeing other people. Disappointment is a strong emotion to deal with. I thought that would be an isolated incident but it happened again this weekend. Ive been with my boyfriend since July of 2020. He never seems to try, you know. He commented on Tues night wed do it the next night so I was completely excited and ready to go at then finally at bedtime he laid there with his eyes closed and when I put the moves on him he told me its time for sleep, that we are just cuddling. Ask yourself what could be causing your boyfriend to pull away from you. Not just that, sexually as well. I really i am lost and dont know what to do, love only gets old if he allows it, I have been trying to do sweet things for him aswell by making him a nice meal and texting him good morning and just checking up on him but I guess he seems rather bored. But no. Every time I try to tell him how i feel about him not making an effort in general and on nights out, and social media etc, he usually gets angry/annoyed and makes me feel so bad. Know your worth and dont settle for a man who doesnt act like hes got you pinned down, get a man who treats you like he cant get enough of you. What happened now Millie? He ignored me for a week 1/2 I thought he dumped me an i had mental breakdowns every night and day..I finally get an email from him asking to zoom and i zoomed him. He never wants to go anywhere or do anything. I used to be patient but recently Ive been having anger issues and he knows how to handle my mood accordingly. Please tell me whatbi should do. The first 5 he was boyfriend of the year. We talk on the phone usually three times a day. Good luck! Go out more often, meet new people, make friends, get involved with charity organisations or simply start a class for something you always wanted to do; try a new hairstyle, go shopping, take yourself on dates, go to a beach or a lake and enjoy the sunset (yes alone! He confess to me that he started to love in our 1 month relationship. SHE STILL HAD HER HARNOUS ON HER. hes sick and theres no cure. Anyways, he has told me before that he plans to make me his girlfriend, we have great conversations, hes very flirty but the problem is he doesnt text me often or try to call or set up a date. Me and him didnt talk much because my mom found out more about my bf and i also couldnt sneak ipads anymore. But theres one time where I got really mad and told him what i feel about everything and he said he was sorry and he tell me how much he loves me. You cant change how he acts toward youyou can only change your expectations. I found a way thomy school computer so yeah. Monday rolls around, nothing. I love my boyfriend, but just cant get the feeling that he feels the same. Ive been giving some hint and already talked about how I feel and why Im acting like this. I get everyday but we go like 3 weeks to a month to once a month. Please help me , I have the same situation weve been dating for a year and 3 months and its the exact same way idky doe . I dont want to lose him,i made a mistake and have learnt to trust him now! Im still dissatisfied I guess. Im in the same situation. Not material things, but being romantic on special occasions. After his birthday he left his sisters and moved in with his mom. Best wishes. Its 90 degrees out so I thought Id stay cool and look a little less like I live in a dumpster. Do you have an suggestions on what I should do? ive already told him my feelings about this often. He loves Instagram and has a fitness page, and is constantly posting pics on it and putting up stories of his everyday life. Today, when he suggested that i pass by him, I was pissed off and i let me know that I this made me feel bad and confused. One would think he would have learned his lesson and did something special this year. he is such a mystery. Its really hard, but Im trying. Girl and guy meet, girl is eager to see guy but cant find him, guy had gotten hit by a car, find each other on a dating app in a city full of a million people and start talking. He did say that we wont be able to talk as much cause theyve got people over and he did apologise before hand but I really cant stand him disappearing during our lil catch-up session to play games,without telling me. Since a month or so these fights are causing me to have panic attacks and he doesnt care when tell him how much it affects me. He went out and bought 48 roses he surprised me with though out the day for Valentines day and took me out for a really nice dinner- he even planned having sexy time (which got postponed finishing). because that can be so self-fulfilling trust me). Just about two weeks ago, the cycle broke. Needless to say, I do not want to get married, to see if that will make a difference. It makes me feel like 1: he now feels a connection with this woman he does not with me and that is why he feels so contemptuous towards me all the time now 2: pissed off that he KNOWS it bothers me, is not able to understand why I feel that way and simply disregards my feelings maybe even doing it on purpose?? One of the best things to do when youre confused about your relationship is to pull back and try to see yourself and your boyfriend more objectively. He also doesnt seem as interested in what I have to say anymore. He compromised but I guess his old self is back .Ive not heard from him today as well.I would understand if he was unwell,Id appreciate it if he could atleast send me even a short message so I wouldnt get so worried. Three weeks in he moved in with me and then the coronavirus pandemic hit and our romance took a nosedive. Communication is not good. When I ask, he gives me some reasons. I dont know if you have or not, but try just letting him spill his heart out to you about his feelings. NO AFFECTION. YESTERDAY I TEXTED HIM AN TOLD HIM THE TRASH SMELT BAD AND HE SAID OKAY ILL TAKE IT OUT WHENI GET HOME. yes, I did reply. Then we were living in different countries. It helped me calm down. But he want to intimate with me. Weve been together a year and a half now. He Is Going Through Something Thats the one thing that i really expect. 7 years this month, no anniversary, didnt even notice actually. I know this might sound silly compared to all of yours. He forgave me and I eventually moved back. But I genuinely hope this would be of help (to you and to anyone whos going through a similar scenario). wishful thinking: wanting to be wanted deeply wanted to feel like a woman kisses, grabbed, eye gazed wanting to be complimented and acknowledged. Whats the good of having money and a nice house if you dont enjoy your life!??? I have no family and feel really lonely. This is an old post but was wondering what you did? Its Valentines Day , I been with my boyfriend for 6 months. I am very fortunate to be free from that. I really love this article. This yr it was Quarantine and so he always wanted to have his own anime character and I made it after puting so much efforts. When i pull back abit, i notice it is when he makes an effort. He has broken up with me three times this year and he never asked for forgiveness. Theres also a clear risk that hell, again, show you exactly how much he cares about you by not fighting for you. Do not sound attacking or desperate. And I told him we can figure it out together after 1/2 weeks I asked him again and go if you dont want to be with me just say it and he said he doesnt want to be a di**head and I said fine and I tried ending it because the way I was getting replies I felt as if he didnt want this no more. I was 15 when we got together and he is like my best friend I love him very much the problem is, I just feel like I do everything I can to make him feel comfortable and cared for and he does very little at all. They say age shouldnt matter, but it does play a part. I would wait it out just a bit, though, because hes probably dealing with a lot right now. For the past few weeks we only have time in night to chat since hes busy for work but he always talk about sex and video chat with me to see my pussy and whenever I rejected him I dont get a reply or he would say hed go to sleep. He used to do all these romantic things for me before we went long distance. From what you said, he seriously dont appreciate you. Your email address will not be published. Like thank you for ruining an otherwise nice day/evening because I did not answer you the correct way when you asked if I refilled the ice tray. they say love is sweeter than the second time arounnd, probably to some but not on me l met my boyfriebd wayback in highschool .. Im so gullible that time that I gave him everything I had. I read this article today because today he laughed at me when I put on a dress that wasnt low cut or revels my chest. Just think about how you can start fresh with a new guy (or two) and pick out someone who will do things with you, cuddle and kiss on the couch, spend time searching for the perfect gift, and keep his word about when hes coming over. Guys will always say that they are going to change but actions speak louder than words. Then I gave up on trying to figure it out. Yet never once hes let me in. He just doesnt care. He is separated with 4 kids and a selfish demanding ex wife who took everything she could from him while they were together. He is not often visit to me. I worked until 11 pm and he worked until 7 and this morning I even brought everything out ingredients wise for him to FOR ONCE make me dinner because I was getting home SO late and SO exhausted. Well, a few weeks have gone by and the love languages and arguing and overall communication has been better. I would go on my off days when I wasnt in collehe classes or work. The first year was good, with what I call sparks! He is very sporadic with hugs and holding hands. You are worth it. Were both not yet married with our partners since both of our relationship with our partners is not okay. He stopped foreplay. I have told him many times that he doesnt care about me, and he always says that he loves me. Ive been with my bf for a year & half but we have past history. Im pretty sure hell tell me I cant really go because its just an alumni weekend. He doesnt reply to you, so he doesnt deserve to know youre going to find someone else. While he was living with his mom he got a job and was so focused on that..he didnt talk to me as much anymore. Oh my goodness. My fiance and I have been together for a year.. when we first got together he was so happy and kind to me.. but then there was all this stuff from his job getting him stressed out ..and bills, and family, and Im not sure what else..his last job he had a manager that spoke so poorly towards him and the other employees plus the customers. He did seem to be more engaged but yet no affection towards me. Now its almost been two weeks since weve seen each other. You are so young and still have many, many years to find a good guy. He talks but does not deliver. Hes really bad at texting and sometimes we dont really talk on the phone cause he said he was tired. I finally had to let him go. I know we also havent been talking quite as much because were both busy with work. When you get his attention, never hesitate to say your mind. When he is sad I quit everything to cheer him up. The last time I told him about him not making me a priority, he said felt he wasnt good enough for me. About 3 weeks after, right after a fight we had after my bday, he told him he cant find them. WebiStock. And think about the other person not just about yourself. I am this woman. Hi, I have a very similar situation to yours. If you always cook dinner, take a night off. Before that weve only met to chat, watch a movie or take a walk. My gut instinct had been telling me since February of this year that his feelings had changed. I hate that normal people go out and do fun things. Im starting to think he doesnt want to marry me. I realized how I stopped wearing some clothes because he didnt like them, for example. Writing can help you discover if youre expecting too much, or if your boyfriend stopped making an effort because your relationship doesnt mean much to him. When I started dating him I was very strong in my religion. he said hell give me more time but nothing ever changes. You Are Very Possessive & Insecure about Him. Perhaps he thinks guys dont need to make an effort in relationships, and girlfriends should do all the work. I almost believe he is avoiding me for not been attracted to me.I am sure that he wants me and I feel frustrated with his actions but I do love other qualities he has. THEY ARE DRINKING AN BECOME LAZY. They are both in their 40s and are so happy to find each other. I dont know what to do. This weekend I went to my sisters house and watched a ball game and the next day went to a movie with a friend. I am literally in the exact same position. Its hard for me to let go and try when he is not trying enough and only notices the negative things. Since then my boyfriend has made no effort in our relationship. What should I do? Watch YouTube videos on narcissistic boyfriends and you will know how lucky you are to be able to get away from him. ? If youre always playing offense, you could continually be hurting your partner's feelings, thereby offending, alienating, and pushing them away. This is really helpful. As it turns out hes none of these things. Day after, he went for work in other city and stayed there for 3months. Oh and i forgot to say that the first and second time i snuck out I paid his sister 40 dollars OUT OF MY BIRTHDAY MONEY. I thinking breaking up with him is definitely a stretch, but Im tired of begging my boyfriend for some reasonable attention. I live in London and met him just outside the city and weve been together 5 years this summer but we are currently having ZERO sex he texts me NEVER and calls me NEVER! I dont do things just to expect it in return but you just want reassurance that youre appreciated. After that we were so in love and we talked all the time everyday. The point Im trying to make is, if you settle for mistreatment and excuses for why its ok, youll only end up resentful and unable to trust anyone again. All relationships are unique. He dismisses your emotions. I asked him a couple of times why he doesnt put any effort and he just told me since we live together I shouldnt have to and I get that point but it doesnt mean just completely give up on putting a effort into the relationship. Its sad when other give you the compliments that you are looking from in one person. You wish your boyfriend was as attentive and loving as he was at the beginning of your relationship. About me. First off I pulled back without warning. Psychologically, the pressure was destroying me. First I asked him if we could level up our relationship through meeting his and my family. At first, he was working, seeing his daughter, making me coffee in the morning, starting my car for me, doing dishes, and laundry and now ten months in, he lost his job, and I have no idea if hes looking for a job. He always makes his schedules according to his friends schedules and if I wanna spend any time with him I have to change my schedules. We have a beautiful home and are dog and cat owners. so I do have to take that into account, and when his parents go away for the summer its wayyyy easier to spend more time with him, he becomes so laid back. We decided to move in together shortly after COVID began so I worked things out with my work and moved to his state. I tried talking to him and he said I was being to needy. Meet new people, and make quality friends who youd rather spend time with and make him feel that he is not the ONLY one you have, but a choice you have made to spend some time of your life with. it makes me feel like hes okay with giving me the minimum because he knows i will accept it. We dont laugh as much as we used too. Or maybe your boyfriend is dealing with an ex-wife and custody issues, and just doesnt have the time or energy to make an effort in your relationship. I feel like my boyfriend of 5 years doesnt really care anymore. I can tell you have much love for him but imagine how good itll be to love someone that has that same love and 10x more for you. That is an abusive, toxic relationship and you deserve so much better! I love him a lot- weve been together for 2.5 years- but Im starting to realize that despite my feelings for him, I cant continue on in the relationship if he isnt willing to understand my feelings and desires. I used to take accountability for the frequent fights once they started. Anything and Everything in hopes he would think maybe he should do the same. she tells him SHE is sorry. I just dont understand why he refuses to accept how I feel. Its selfish to me but maybe it really isnt. Here are 5 reasons he stopped texting you: 1. He can say he loves me and misses me million times a day but then he doesnt make an effort for us to be together when we could because hes just very comfortable. Am so confused I dont rilly know what to do . My boyfriend of 7 years had lost interest over the past year, not wanting to see or spend time with me, 3 months now I havent seen him once. This man is no good for you, and he will never learn how to grow out of his depression if theres someone always doing everything for him. i dont know what i should do since i know that he has feelings for me but i feel like he treats me like a friend a lot of the time. Feel like I am too grown for him. 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