my girlfriend is dragging me down
But I just dont know anymore. He would only talk and see me when he had nothing else to do but I was okay with that I was inlove with him. This is the person who wants what you have - your charm, your wit, your success, your intelligence, your job, your partner, whatever - and because they don't think they . I am afraid that if I leave she will kill herself, she is completely obsessed with me and I cant escape. She clearly doesnt love you like one should love another person. I do everything I can to help her, but I feel like I'm just propping her up, and despite the medications she's taking she doesn't seem to ever improve. Before the depression she was great, and we saw each other very often. "My problem is that since we have moved in together, she is negative about everything." My girlfriend and I have been together for three years. She also started to talk about other guys and how they were getting close to her (which i actually found out the guys she was talking about liked her aswel) but when i ask her to not do anything misleading with them, she started arguing with me and saying i wasnt trusting her. Seems like a pattern, a thing to analyse better. If your partner dominates every aspect of your shared lives, you may be in a draining relationship. And it started to bring me down even more. The GoodTherapy.org Team. No one feels superior or inferior to the other." Its your natural born right to be happy! There is this main problem with communication between boys and girls we think a little bit differently and act too. We need ways to keep the flame and love alive. And if an argument crops up, it almost always goes smoothly (i.e., no screaming, or blaming, or anything horrible like that). This girl was everything I wanted, such a good partner, listener, so smart, sensitive. SO IF YOU HANG AROUND PEOPLE LIKE THIS YOU WILL TAKE ON THEIR THINKING AND HABITS MAKE NO MISTAKE ABOUT IT. She looks for a bit of comfort, wants some tea/cuddles and sex. It also seems like you have come to the realization that this situation is not sustainable and that something must change. Listen, really try to listen like she was your best friend not girlfriend. So tell someone, it wont just save her life, but also yours. 3. So if your partner isn't pulling his or her weight, you may find yourself feeling like giving up. Everything i could say would create a problem and everything was my fault. So both of you can benefit. I have been dating my girlfriend for almost two years. If you have solution, you are God for me:(, I am crying here because I feel you guys are talking about problem that I am facing. She will text or call me out of blue and tell how much she appreciates my patience with her. She will have better and badder days and she will be back to old pattern. This could mean adding individual and/or group therapy to her treatment regimen, trying a new therapeutic approach, or making a change to her medication. Get yourself some therapy to deal with the hurt and pain, then move on with your life. Yes, we all need help and support and Im in it til death do we part. Welcome to Tissue Issues, an advice column from comedian Ash . Smoking and drinking! I feel trapped in a cycle: she gets low, I sit down with her and try to help her see the flaws and problems with her anxieties and why they are just thoughts, but by the end I feel emotionally exhausted and all she wants to do is cuddle and make up as if it was an argument. Assistir Sheffield Utd X Tottenham - Ao Vivo Grtis HD sem travar, sem anncios. She says she feels okay when she clearly doesnt, when I give her a hug during this time, she tenses up, keeps shaking her head, and really hates herself for the way she is. Its dragging me down and she wont listen to me and wouldnt want to change her way of thinking for herself or anyone, I hate to say this but I realized she is actually very stubborn and selfish. I take it this is detrimental to a persons feelings who has depression. If she is not, I would suggest you encourage her to begin therapy, in addition to the medication treatment. He is also seeing a psychiatrist who has advised he doesnt work I am doing 3 jobs to pay for my divorce as he is going to go bankrupt with his business =- because he couldnt face going in to work except at lunch time. she is unhappy with dating. Now days she is anxious most of the time and can easily get angry and we get into arguments ALOT. We've been together for about a year now. I envy all your girlfriends, because you acknoleged their pain.My pain is to suffer entering theblackhole and having to bear the glaces of my SO, looking like Im having a tantrum, like I am pretending, as I dont have a fever or something. She has a comfortable home life but is in a constant state of conflict with her parents because of how she is treated.. Namely them trying to get her out on her own after graduating and trying to find a job. Its one thing to be committed to someone and another to keep trying only to see they themselves keep failing back into the same pattern. Some times its okay but those are only the times when things are easy. But i will never get married again since it really has become very risky for many of us men that have been married the first time. I missed her, but she pushed me away and i got fed up from this. Wow.. so many people with so many similar issues and I thought I was the only one! Im in a LDR myself too although I have never met her IRL. From past one to two years I came to know.Now it becomes severe.she suffers from anxiety , bipolar disorder. That takes incredible patience and compassion, but it can also take a toll on you. That sounds like my issue too. She might miss you. Im on anti depressants myself but evidently those are for the weak that cant handle reality from her pointof view. I started to seek too much attention, because it felt finally a lille bit good to have this attention. Once you are gone, she will find another enabler to take on her issues. When you've had too much on your plate for a long time, behaviors in your partner that would normally be slightly irritating can feel like major disruptions to your peace of mind. It truly could be your relationship that's to blame. It's not fun for either party, and it's definitely a sign that things aren't entirely healthy. I love her but I just think staying will be self destructive for me and just enabling to her. And thats when shit will get unbearable for the two of you. Let her take the step and compliment her if she completes it. i fell as if i cant help her, im not good enough to make her happy although i try so hard and its making me doubt myself more and more. She had issues before with sex and that was part of why she drank. First two years went well. If I talk in a neutral tone or raise my voice even slightly she says I am scary and becomes inconsolable. But, I love her and I want to support her I dont want to turn my back on her. I am a fighter so that was my reaction. Shes suffered from depression throughout our relationship. I tried hard to keep the relationship going, but I was alone in that battle. Do something romantic. Also, Im placed as the general emotional support to everyone around me. All efforts made on my part were in vain. Im not saying what will happen, only what very possibly can. I've been with my girlfriend for about a year and recently she has made a big deal about wanting me to start coming along to her work events. Every time we go out she freaks out. My girlfriend is dragging me back into depression with her own personal problems. I feel for all of you guys! But of course this isn't the case in an unhealthy relationship. Ive been going to therapy for 3 years and talking about my problems doesnt help me. I dont know how much you have tried already, but why not try it? I do not see a future with her but I get so torn up at the thought of leaving her to her depression and her situation, Im in the exact same situation as you gaz. I am very caring, soft spoken and outspoken. But she wouldnt want to talk some nights. I was acting like it all was my boyfriends fault, and I sometimes felt like this. Youve managed to take care of your girlfriend and remain connected enough to yourself to come up with these questions. Basically, she pretty frequently attends fancy. A healthy relationship will feel secure no matter what. I started to feel distant from her and that i dont want to be intimat to her. I have a battle on my hands, life has tried to tear me down before and I wont let it just yet..You choose to be happy, Woah that is one crazy situation both of you are dealing with. Am I codependent? If your partner isn't nice, or loving, or supportive in any way, it can leave you feeling perfectly drained of energy. I strongly encourage you to begin your own therapy. Lately, Ive been becoming stronger, Ive finished my graduation, am starting to work by myself. If you would like to talk to a therapist or counselor, you can use our site to locate one in your area. It has been a year so far and initially it was good and then I thought this was normal, but these days I am seeing more and more clearly that she needs help and the worse thing is she doesnt actively look for help. She wont tell me whats going on. My advice to anyone going through this with a depressed person is just call it off and move on. There is so many thoughts and circumstances for a girl. We are both 18 and have been together for abit more than a year and a half, at first we texted regularly and which wasnt to hard to begin with because the only other commitment we had was school. Offer to help her move large pieces of furniture and boxes to her new space. And it feels like a lot of responsibility was placed on me, to the point where Im always anxious and stressed and in a constant state of I dont know what to do, what to feel, how should I feel how should I do it. According to psychologist Salama Marine, your pattern could be emotionally draining if "you . For the potential cheating part, dont worry about it. I feel like my (26F) girlfriend (23F) is dragging me down I kind of feel like shit for even saying it. One day I thought that she wanted to seek attention by saying that so I confronted her. Shes fixates and ruminates on her health on a daily basis, and connects every ache and pain as a reflection of her perceived inability and shame around not taking care of herself, and thinks she cant trust her own mind. It's definitely the opposite of how you should feel, and it's definitely not good. Read the book co-dependent no more. I feel you. I always tell her I enjoy how she is my first thought when i wake up and the last. Your story is pretty much identical to mine. When we first met she experienced severe triggers and dissociative states, which led to her being unable to finish her degree, something she carries a great deal of shame from. She was sweet, sensitive and caring. This means being comfortable in your skin and with the way you walk, talk, look, breath, move, and all the other things that make you uniquely you. There are so ways people find happiness and you guys both just need to find yours and you need to know that one day.. You will. ago Welcome to r/dating_advice! And that is the hard and painful task to face the truth, because depression is, for me at least running away form truth, avoiding to face it. If that person still doesnt change then it may be time to leave. But you're dragging me down, yeah. she undergoing medications and therapy but nothing could help her. Nothing you can do to help. And do not try to help, just try to understand. She just takes things to seriously when i try to joke around with her which i really can see that she has a real problem to begin with. I Feel Helpless! Relationships are supposed to be about equality. That left me with a perspective of loosing someone I really love and also left space for me to think about it in safe environment. Like you rejecting the last possible form of understanding and connection. Friends are pretty intuitive in that they know immediately when something isn't right. I am torn she is stunning and beautiful, cooks, looks after me but she doesnt look after herself. And here's hoping you both can turn things around, and have a little more of that "good.". As I read your comments I am beginning to understand what my boyfriend feels. You couldnt survive being a total mess a hundred years ago and Trying to be a significant other when your partner has depression, anorexia, bulimia, addictions etc feels absolutely terrifying. We dont really have many, if any, moments of romance anymore. I am really surprised to see that there is so many cases of difficult relationships, and also that persons who write here are mostly guys dealing with broken girlfriends. If you're being dragged down by your partner, it could be due to cheating, or emotional abuse, or a lack of support. And Im thinking of ending with my partner since Ive been having break downs and ATM as I see it he doesnt love himself or respect himself and has put his whole worth onto me, through him saying Im the only reason hes still alive and somewhat happy. I let things change for the negative and even though my instinct knew something was wrong I stuck with it because I am loyal and felt love on a certain level that I thought was worth considering. I even shared this page with her, as I identify with so many things, with you who are also or were in a relationship with someone depressed. Hey, lately iv been feeling more and more distant from my gf. I dont want to get to the point of carer for her or to resent her because of her condition. Two nights ago after a weekend of not really talking that much as she was very down and I was super busy with work, we spoke on the phone and she told me she needed to be alone and deal with this, because her depression was the worst its ever been. Her aggression and fights are only there to tell you that she needs help, and help in this case is outside you two therapy, friends, new experiences. If so, then high blood pressure may not be far behind. We kept going on, and little by little she started becoming more and more away from me. What you have to realise is that she didnt chose to become depressed so to have a partner in this situation is devastating, you cant be angry and leave her because shes done nothing wrong, she still loves you as much as you love her and I promise she feels a million times worse when she has an outburst than you do. Its extremely helpful to be able to read something from the person suffering from depression. I myself am in a LDR with my girlfriend. Do they really want help? But I really just wanted to Thank You for your post. Youve asked some really important questions about yourself: Am I codependent? Whats my issue? What steps can or should I take? These questions are as important as they are complicated. she undergoing medications and therapy but nothing could help her. Its killing me inside as she looks so helpless, vulnerable, alone and she has the face of one of the most beautiful girls you would ever meet. past experiences? And as you deal with their negativity, you may find yourself no longer interested in things you used to find fun like going out, being social, or, you know, leaving the apartment. In fact, research has shown that this feeling of insecurity may boost levels of a stress hormone, and can even lower your immune system, according to Kathleen Doheny on WebMD.com. I hope my thoughts are helpful in any way, I also feel now a little bit insecure, because in need he left me and I have impression that it might happen again if anything else bad happens. We r loving since 5-6 years! Same for me. I feel like she is using me even though I take care of her. 2. She lacks motivation, and can struggle to get out of bed and finds it very difficult to engage with productive in her life, that I know she wants to do, but that she feels are fake and fleeting. I cant leave her though because she said she wouldnt be able to live if i left her. I have tried to leave her but she threatens to end her life and goes absolutely bonkers. My girlfriend of 6 months began declining about a month ago. She is loyal and would care for me no matter what but I cant keep bringing my own life down too to be on her level. You say that they dont chose to become depressed no they dont but they can choose to help themselves. My sleep have been deprived for over 6 months. Sometimes through the foggy clouds of depression its hard to see if a person really likes you, but dont worry too much. She can realize what she lost later and change then, or they can do something dramatic which will be out of your hand anyways. Im sorry for all of us that love was not enough. I thought she was the woman of my life, that I would do anything for her and I would but she simply doesnt want. Atlast I hate the word LOVE with cry. Once you enter your information, youll be directed to a list of therapists and counselors who meet your criteria. So I fight. Posted October 5, 2013 | Reviewed by Ekua Hagan Question: Hi Irene, My BFF and I have been friends since high school. So he . Im so tired now and giving her space and to myself too while figuring what I should do, to stay or leave? Or sit down and plan something new to try. You're so tired. Method 1 Addressing It Right Now 1 Avoid reacting immediately. I only have time to look at primary materials and not much more, and sometimes I wait until she has gone to sleep so I can read in peace. I dont want to leave her, as a friend she needs me more than anything, but I need to figure out a way to help us both (I know Im not going to fix her issues, but just being around saying the same thing over and over again like I love you or everything going to be okai doesnt seem like its doing anything at all. Karen S., a business executive in her late 20s, had been with her boyfriend eight months when she fell into a funk. I am now self harming and am depressed myself and still having to work 3 jobs I am now going to see a Councillor I can ill afford and I have no one to say dont go to work I will look after you. In your head, you know it's no big deal. I really wish GoodTherapy.org would have some people, professionals or people who had past experiences in line with all the above comments and have them offer some advice and hope for everyone here. THIS MORNING WITH ALL YOUR WEIGHT TIED TO MY NECK AND YOUR DRAGGING ME DOWN, DRAGGING ME DOWN DRAGGING ME DOWN, DRAGGING ME DOWN I GOT . I told her that i love her and i would never leave her, i forgave her cuz she lied to me, i told her that if i was with right now i would give her a hug and a kiss. How do I approach the situation without hurting her feelings/making her feel bad? Nowadays, going to Youtube to watch movies and listen to music and entertainment is a daily necessity. ! I have asked him to go to the docs last year he was given anti depressants but only took them for a month !!!! This really got to me, he is my first love! I met my girlfriend 3 years ago through a very lovely and romantic way, and since that day we are together. I took on too much. Dear Armand, There must be fond memories. I looked it up. deep thoughts in my head And they just keep dragging me down there down so deep Dragging me down so deep Dragging me down so deep Dragging me down so. She shut me off completely and gave me halfhearted reply whenever I talk to her. Also, it is very important that a psychiatrist, and not a general practitioner, be managing her medication. And dwelling in the state of permanent not-understanding-what-is-going-on is no option. Thinking that you will solve the problem will only make you more and more frustrated. I just cant take the angry outbursts then the crying then the woe is me attitude over every tiny event. Even though we are long distance, I am finding it impossible to go on, and as I am at university, if I keep this up my grades are going to slip. I have good days and bad days. Tell her its either you or the ex, no friendships either. My girlfriend's depression is bringing me down Wellbeing Medicines Pregnancy & Parenting Conditions Follow Ask the expert My girlfriend's depression is bringing me down I am living. It's to the point where her depression is dragging me down with her, though I would never say that to her. Maybe your girlfriend finds talking to her friend, who also has the same kind of problem, helpful in some way. Uffo , I feel like I dont want anything in my life. Its gut wrenching. So its what you make of it. Im having similar issues as many of you aforementioned. You need to be comfortable with who you are. Lately she has been responding to me uncaringly and uninterested. During the relationship, she refused to be medicated or to be accompanied by a psychologist. Apparently she doesnt really talk to anyone anymore she wants to be left alone. girlfriend is dragging me down I feel that my girlfriend is dragging me down and although she's happy in the relationship I'm not. And also you have to be a little tough, let her know that you understand and love (you can tell her that simply in words, she might not notice that your actions are supposed to tell it, it is also difference between sexes) her but dont be the hero here. Me and my LDR girlfriend were originally together for 7 months, then took a break for 3, and now we are back together. There has to be solutions. Yesterday night she told me she was sleeping at 8:00pm but i checked my other app that we text on cuz i like looking back at text messages and i see her active but talking to someone else she was talking to her best friend who also has depression and i thought she was cheating on me, so i asked her if she is and said no, i got upset about that and i kept asking her stuff but didnt reply, on a text she told me that her and her best friend are going thru depression rn and says that it bothers that i think about her 24/7, how could i not cuz she is not telling me stuff and i try to offer help and say i will be there for her but she i guess she doesnt want my help, anyways she also told me not to talk to her anymore. If signs point to your partner, it's time to make a change. I have a problem and cant find anyone to tell Found that website and the posts here are very similar to mine. Thanks for your testimony Ching. I didnt know about it. She used to threaten me and say i am depressed & mad. And probably you wonder why I use past tense when I write. He has on multiple occasions told me that he only feels happy, safe and secure around me, and that if it wasnt for me he wouldve killed himself long ago. It hurt me deeply and I dont know what to do. Trying to fix it on yours own either no optional. Medication and therapy dont really work. Therapy and meds nothing will work. Second, if nothing changes over time let it go. If you need help finding a therapist, you are welcome to call us. However, i was in a grade above her and graduated and proceeded to get a job so i could support our lives, this made texting hard as i had very early starts and it was very physically and mentally tiring work, however i still texted her as much as possible. Today she told me shes ditching all her meds and is just gonna do weed therapy. my health is declining. Its bad and I feel so trapped. I feel like iv become more of a tool for relief then her boyfriend, i feel as if she doesnt actually care for me but all she wants is me to make her happy. She is suffering from depression, anxiety, restlessness, nightmares, physical issues and so on. When someone puts you down, deal with it by not immediately reacting to him. Me being there, and supporting this whole time didnt count for anything. Taken from Revenge Of The Goldfish. It's up to you to decide how to handle that. Before this everything was amazing, great relationship, we admitted to each other that we were in love and had fallen head over heals, amazing sex, I really felt like I had found my best friend. Help me drag the camping gear down the hill. It Feels Like They Always Ask Too Much. She lives 200 km away from me and Shes 30 but she isnt mature enough to have any responsibility, I pity for it. Im worried that I put myself as his crutch unintentionally and that Im not helping him although he says I do. This is a painful, complicated issue, and you deserve to have support as you work on figuring out what is best for you. Im there for her and she knows it. We had went there to plan for an engagement, but all she had for us was a rejection, simply because I don't own a house. I dunno maybe thats just me. You tend to put blame on you, stop doing this. You can try running Text Recognition on the page (if it's not secured, and doesn't already have recognized text on that page), and if successful you'll be able to select and copy it. Then to know she will react & get angry is so wrong. I see her every weekend, during the week I keep to myself play video games, homework, go over to a friends for a beer. I have honoured her decision to sort this out alone. Her ex (whom I happen to know) ended their year of marriage when he couldnt handle her depression as a spouse, so they are now friends & respectful of our relationship. 1992 - Video directed by Dani Jacobs. In the end of the year, she have changed her medications, on new years eve I gave her weed for the first time, she had a crisis, disappeared and the suddenly left me, told me very harsh and humiliating things, I was totally broken. I try not to put pressure on her to be a certain way or accomplish a certain thing in a given day, but when the time comes when there is actually a really important thing she needs to do, and shes not able to do it, i feel i end up hurting her and not helping. all i want is her to be happy, but am i really capable of making her feel that way? Right now, we value the future of our child more than anything else. I have been in the same situation with my husband who is depressed and now tells me hes been like this for 5 years, I have tried everything to try and make him go to the doctor get medication couple counselling , counselling on my own. From then onwards,my girl friend got suffering from depression slowly.but I was not knowing that and she also didnt share anything to me. It drives me nuts when she sleeps all day. i feel it but i but i just cant deal with being her friend in school and more outside, i cant do it in school. Let her try and fix that. Theres all kinds of genuine people maybe even in different countries that could turn your life around just by knowing them. Im the one whos always giving the support and its draining me and she doesnt appreciate it at all and said she cant feel our love anymore. And the woman that i am dating right now which i do hope that my relationship lasts with her since like i mentioned earlier i really do love her very much. Setup Size: 8.9 GB. Good Luck!! I can know no one would have got solution. Unfortunately, there seems to be nothing I can do when she feels down. Obviously it isnt making her any happier as things are.. she knows im here for her. I am trying to help her but I could not help anymore than this.i could concentrate on caring myself, could not eat or sleep well. I feel like a slave. I like my lectures because I feel like I have room to breathe since there is no internet connection in the lecture theaters. Totally agree with your comment. She questioned our status, then says if we are a couple we should act like one (she is always busy and making plans with friends so I leave her be) which she doesnt like. So what am I to her now?? Its a positive sign that you seem to have a solid sense not only of where she is, but also where you are. Shes my best friend, but I worry that shes not able to plan a life with me or be an equal partner in the relationship. 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